Trauma, Abuse and Attachment Wounds

Trauma, Abuse and Attachment Wounds

To live is to suffer; to survive is to find meaning in the suffering.

Friedrich Nietzsche

Trauma and Abuse

Human suffering stems from a wide variety of causes. Trauma and abuse come from emotional, physical and sexual violence, along with intergenerational trauma and racism. School and workplace bullying remain insidious in society. Accidents, wars and natural disasters can cause PTSD, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. And then we have domestic, family and community violence, along with coercive control and narcissistic abuse. The list is exhaustive.

Attachment Trauma

Disrupted attachment to caregivers creates early wounds in children. This type of trauma occurs in circumstances like poverty, war, mass migration and even immigration. When adults suffer, their caregiving abilities become unpredictable and inconsistent. Researchers John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth categorized childhood insecure attachment into three categories: Anxious, avoidant, and disorganized. The impact of attachment trauma carries into adulthood with severe consequences. These include a fear of abandonment, emotional dysregulation, and an inability to feel safe in relationships. It also creates an insecure attachment to yourself where you are constantly filled with self-doubt and have poor self-esteem,

Trauma, Abuse and Attachment Wounds: How We Can Help

A core tenet of Shanti Psychotherapy is accepting that most people live with some form of unresolved trauma. It could be a single event or multiple ongoing ones. Trauma shows up in life as anxiety, panic attacks, sleep disturbances, depression, dysfunctional eating, low self-esteem, and much more.

To anyone who has experienced any of the suffering described above, know that it was never your fault. The abuse and trauma happened to you. While they remain part of your story, they do not define you as a person. Therapy can help you heal.

Therapy for Trauma, Abuse and Attachment Wounds

In the words of Friedrich Nietzsche, to survive is to find meaning in the suffering. Therapy for trauma, abuse and attachment wounds is a pathway for you to make sense of your suffering. It helps you process painful emotions and practice self-love so you can heal.

The therapy sessions will include more than discussions about your experiences. Your therapist will guide you in reauthoring your story to create a healthier narrative. With compassionate, non-judgmental and evidence-based therapy, you will build a confident and resilient version of yourself. The therapy modalities are all evidence-based and include some of the following:

  • Deep Brain Reorienting (DBR): Heals the physiological and emotional roots of trauma.
  • Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR): Reprocesses traumatic memories to reduce their emotional impact.
  • Somatic Therapy: Releases trauma stored in the body.
  • Trauma-Informed CBT: Reframes negative thought patterns and develops coping strategies.
  • Mindfulness Practices: Helps you stay grounded and regulate emotions.
  • Hypnotherapy: Accesses and addresses deep-seated pain.
  • Attachment Therapy: helps you heal early relationship wounds of insecure attachments.

Our Therapeutic Process

Your therapy treatments will be culturally sensitive and tailor-made for you.

First, your therapist will spend time exploring how the trauma affected your mind and body and your therapy goals. From there, they will combine EMDR, DBR, Hypnotherapy, Trauma-Informed CBT, and Somatic Therapy to address the multifaceted effects of trauma. They will also integrate mindfulness practices and other tools to help you stay grounded and secure. And finally, they will offer ongoing support, consistent guidance and encouragement throughout your healing journey.

Book a Consultation

If you’re suffering from trauma, abuse or attachment wounds, we can help. We invite you to book a free 20-minute consultation to learn how we can therapy can become your journey to wellness.

🧠 What is Deep Brain Reorienting (DBR)?

DBR is a cutting-edge, neuroscience-informed trauma therapy that helps people process unresolved trauma by working with the brainstem, the part of the brain responsible for our most instinctive survival responses.Unlike traditional therapy, DBR doesn’t start with the story of what happened. Instead, it gently tracks the sequence of internal reactions that occurred at the time of the trauma, beginning with the body’s orienting response to a perceived threat, followed by tension and emotional shock.By helping the nervous system complete these original protective responses in a safe and supported way, DBR allows for deep healing at the level where trauma is first held, often without the need to relive or retell painful memories in detail.If you’re feeling stuck in patterns of fear, hypervigilance, emotional shutdown, or reactivity, DBR might be a helpful path forward. Reach out to us at Shanti to learn more or book a consultation.#dbrtherapy #deepbrainreorientingtherapy #deepbrainreorienting #traumatherapy #traumahealing #intergenerationaltrauma

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